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Good morning, Cicely.
There are some journeys we take alone. Not by choice, but by storm. Life has a funny way of rerouting the road just when you think you know the map. And suddenly, you’re not the person you thought you were going to be.
You’re not the golden boy anymore.
Not the rising star.
Not the dreamer with the straight path and the perfect arc.
You’re something else entirely.
You’re someone who went through it. And I mean really went through it.
I’ve spent time in places people whisper about—psych wards, jail cells, corners of the mind where the lights flicker and nothing makes sense. I’ve lost years to silence, confusion, and pain. I’ve watched dreams get shattered like glass on stone, and had to pick up the pieces with shaking hands.
There were nights no one called. Days no one knew where I was. Times even I didn’t know who I was.
And still… somehow… I’m here.
My family didn’t always understand. How could they? Mental illness doesn’t come with instructions. It doesn’t wear a name tag. It doesn’t sit politely in the corner. But even in the dark, they loved me. Fiercely. Imperfectly. Consistently. And I owe them everything.
There was a love once—a young one. One of those first-flame, heart-open, foolish-and-forever kind of things. I let it slip away. Maybe I ran. Maybe I wasn’t ready. Maybe I didn’t believe I deserved it. And I’ve never found that kind of depth again. That’s a ghost I carry. Not with bitterness, just with a quiet what if.
I never had children. And maybe I never will. That used to haunt me. But lately… I’ve started to see things differently.
Because while I may not be a father, I’ve become something else. Something I never thought I could be.
I’ve become me.
Not the broken version.
Not the could’ve-been.
Just me.
Someone I trust.
Someone I’m proud to carry through this world.
This is Chris in the Morning—KBHR 570 AM—and if you’re listening, and you’ve been through the long night… just know there’s still morning. There’s still music. There’s still time.
And sometimes, surviving becomes your greatest work.
For The Sister Who Forgot Her Own Light ©️
Good morning, Cicely.
You ever love someone so much that it hurts to watch them drift? Not because they’ve done anything wrong. But because they’re not themselves anymore. Because you can feel them slipping—not away from the world, but away from you… and maybe away from who they used to be.
I want to talk about my sister.
She used to laugh more. Talk more. She used to pick up the phone just to say hi, to tell me what ridiculous thing her son did that morning. She used to lean in—like we were part of the same rhythm, the same music. Like family meant something that couldn’t be bent.
But now… things are different.
She married a man I don’t trust. And maybe that’s not polite to say on the air—but sometimes truth isn’t polite. Sometimes it just is. I don’t like the way he talks to her. I don’t like the way he makes her question herself. Like she’s never quite enough unless she’s quieter, smaller, less. And I hate the way he keeps her separated—from us, from the people who love her, from the parts of herself that used to shine so naturally.
It’s subtle, the way it happens. That kind of control doesn’t scream—it whispers. It makes her think it’s her fault. Like she’s too emotional, too dramatic, too needy for wanting the kind of connection that every human deserves.
And I want her to know… it’s not her fault.
She is not too much. She is not wrong. She is not a burden.
She’s my sister. And I miss her.
I miss her stories. I miss our jokes. I miss sitting on the porch with her and talking about nothing while her son chases butterflies in the grass.
And yeah—I miss him too. Her little boy. My nephew. The kind of kid who still believes in magic. I hope he’s still smiling. I hope he still feels safe. I hope he knows he’s loved, even if the grown-ups around him are tangled up in things too big for him to understand.
If I had my way, she’d come back home. She’d pack up, grab her boy, and come back to where she’s seen again. Heard. Held. Where love doesn’t cost you your voice. Where the past can breathe again and the future isn’t built on someone else’s permission.
But life isn’t that simple. People leave when they’re ready. Not when we want them to. And so… I wait. I hold space. I keep the porch light on.
This is Chris in the Morning, KBHR 570 AM, sending a message into the mist:
To my sister—wherever you are—you’re still you. We still love you. We still remember who you are. And we’re still here… whenever you’re ready to come home.
Brothers in Arms ©️
Good morning, Cicely.
Today’s not about politics or poetry or wild dreams of transcendence. Today’s about my brother. And the ache that lives just beneath the ribcage when you love someone who’s far away—not just in miles, but in the kind of life they now live.
He’s eleven years younger than me. My little brother. But you know how time works—it stretches and collapses. You blink, and suddenly the kid who used to run after you barefoot through the gravel is a man. A husband. A father.
He married a Swede. Moved halfway across the world to build a life she could believe in. And now he’s over there, doing what good men do—holding his family together. Being strong. Being present. Even when it’s hard.
I know his wife’s struggling right now. And I know what it’s like to carry a family on your back while still trying to keep your own spirit from sagging under the weight. He’s doing his best. I see that. I feel that. And I’m proud of him in that quiet, older-brother kind of way—where pride doesn’t shout, it just nods.
But still… I miss him.
I miss the river. The Yellowstone. The way we used to float downstream like we didn’t have a care in the world. Just the sound of water slapping the raft, a cooler full of something cold, and miles of sky above us. I miss those walks, too. The kind where you don’t even talk, just walk, because sometimes words can’t hold everything two brothers share.
And yeah, I want him to come home.
I want to see him throw his girls in the air and hear their laughter echo through the pines. I want to sit on the porch with him and talk about nothing. About everything. About how weird it is to get older. About how hard it is to be good. About Dad. About life.
But he’s doing what’s right. What’s best for his family. And that’s what real men do. They stay. They show up. Even when they miss home. Even when they miss you.
So this is my radio signal across the ocean. A brother’s broadcast. If you can hear me—just know I love you. I miss you. And I’m rooting for you every single day. You’re not alone. You never were.
This is Chris in the Morning, KBHR 570 AM, sending a little warmth to a younger brother in a colder country.
From a Grateful Son ©️
Good morning, Cicely.
It’s quiet this morning. The kind of quiet where the trees seem to lean in just a little, where the coffee tastes more like a ritual than a drink. The kind of quiet that makes you think about where you came from—and who helped you get here.
I want to talk about my mom.
She was with my dad for forty-nine years. That’s longer than most buildings stand. That’s longer than some rivers hold their course. That’s love… tested and weathered and still somehow tender.
Now, my dad—he was a doctor. He stitched bones and mended wounds and carried the weight of other people’s pain home with him more nights than not. But my mom—she carried him. Carried the rest of us too. Not in some dramatic, spotlighted way. No. She did it the way great writers do things. Subtly. Line by line. Always building. Always listening.
See, she’s a writer. Not just of books or essays—but of people. Of moments. She taught me that a well-placed silence can be as powerful as a scream. That stories don’t need to be loud to last forever.
And she was—still is—the best mom a kid could ask for. She didn’t just raise me. She saw me. Even when I was trying hard not to be seen. She let me stumble, let me figure it out, and she always had the porch light on when I came back around.
And now that Dad’s gone… I find myself looking at her with new eyes.
She gave so much of herself for so long, and now I just want the rest of her life to be hers. I want her to write again—not for legacy, not for others, but for joy. I want her to feel how much she still matters, how much there is still waiting for her. Because she’s still got stories. Still got fire. Still got time.
Mom, if you’re listening… you don’t owe anyone a single thing anymore.
What I wish for you now is happiness. Pure, selfish, sunlight-on-your-face happiness. I want you to travel, to write what scares you, to laugh until you cry in places Dad never took you.
You carried us all for so long. Now let the wind carry you. Let the future be gentle and wide and yours.
This is Chris in the Morning, KBHR 570 AM, signing off for now. Sending love to the woman who gave me everything—and who I now wish everything for.
The Doctor Was My Father ©️
Good morning, Cicely.
This morning’s not about the moose trotting through Main Street or Ruth-Anne’s weather report. This morning’s about something quieter. Heavier. More sacred.
This morning’s about my dad.
He was a doctor. Not the kind you see in movies, with perfect answers and heroic music swelling in the background. No, my dad was the kind who stitched you up with fingers that shook slightly from exhaustion, the kind who worked long shifts and sometimes came home with the weight of other people’s pain still clinging to him like a second coat. The kind who carried more than he ever let on.
He made mistakes. Lord knows he did. Dads aren’t gods, and sometimes they don’t know how to say sorry. But he was there. Not always in the way I wanted, but in the way I needed. Solid. Present. And when the chips were down, when the world came crashing in, he never turned his back on me. Ever.
He was my biggest fan, even when I was fumbling my way through life like a blindfolded man in a glass shop. He never laughed at my dreams—even the crazy ones like coming up to Alaska and whispering poetry through a mic to a bunch of insomniacs and ice fishermen. He didn’t always understand it. But he never stopped believing in me.
And now he’s gone.
And I’d give just about anything for one more cup of coffee with him. One more walk around the block. One more quiet moment where I could say, “Hey, Dad. I know now. I understand. Thank you.”
But there’s no rewind button. No encore performance.
All I’ve got now are echoes.
The way I clear my throat before I speak—that was his. The way I place my hand on someone’s shoulder when they’re going through it—that was his too. His presence shows up in the most unexpected ways, like a scent on the wind, or the sound of a song I didn’t know I needed until I heard it.
And maybe that’s the secret. Maybe the people we lose never really leave us. Maybe they just become part of the air we breathe. Part of the way we live.
So if you’re listening this morning, and you miss your dad too… I’m with you.
And I think they’re with us.
In the quiet strength we carry. In the love we give. In the lives we build from the scaffolding they left behind.
This is Chris in the Morning, son of a flawed and beautiful man who did his best—and loved me the best way he knew how.
The Field Between Them ©️
Two trees grew in a field where no man prayed, Split by a stone that the thunder obeyed. One sang of heaven in bark and bloom, The other drank deeply from winter’s tomb. Both bent to wind like prophets in sleep, Their roots clasped secrets the river would keep.
O mountain mother, hush not thy voice—For wolves still yawn and the elk rejoice. The stars hang drunken on fir-lit pines. Where the dead breathe fog in the faulted lines. And under their branches, frost-wrought and bare, Lie hoofprints nailed like hymns to prayer.
One tree leaned westward, one toward the sun, Their shadows braided when day was done. No saw, no axe, no farmer’s grief, Could split the vow in bark and leaf. They grew not tall for man’s delight, But to whisper to moose in the lantern night.
Beneath them lay the bones of snow, Where blood once melted, then ceased to flow. Not war, but silence had torn the skin—Of a land where breath is held within. And the trees stood still as if they’d known That God rides bareback through pine alone.
So rage, green giants, and swing your boughs—The storm is just the world’s old vows. Though cabins rot and ranches fall, Still you stand, and still you call. And when my time comes, make me this: A voice in wind between roots and abyss.
Two trees grew in a field where I lay down, One bore a crown, the other a frown. Yet both were true, and both were wild, And both remembered me—as child.
Fuck the Noise ©️
There’s a stillness that comes with knowing who you are—not a scream, not a chant, but a rootedness. In a world so eager to deconstruct, to apologize, to burn the old foundations down, there are those of us who still believe there’s something sacred in the bones of the past. To be white is not a crime. It is not a confession. It is a thread in the grand weave of civilization—woven with struggle, invention, loss, and triumph. It is a birthright, not of dominance, but of inheritance. And there is nothing wrong with saying so.
It means growing up with stories of stoic grandfathers who worked the land with hands cracked by frost. Of immigrants who came with nothing but carved out legacies with grit and sweat. Of men who signed their names to ideas that built cities, defended frontiers, and laid railroads across the bones of mountains. It means music that echoes through pine woods and riverbeds. It means firelight, worn Bibles, porch wisdom, and the quiet authority of those who do not need to explain themselves.
There is a special kind of pride in being Southern, too. A regional memory that runs older than most flags still flying. Here, bloodlines wind through red clay and gospel. To be white in the South is to carry the memory of an agrarian world—one built not just on crops, but on a fierce independence. And for many, that memory includes the Confederate soldier.
Not as a symbol of hate, but as a man.
The Confederate soldier was often young, often poor, and often caught in a storm he didn’t create. He fought, not for some abstract evil, but for home—for the ridge where his mother prayed, the field he helped plant, the town that bore his name. His reasons were his own, shaped by the times, by the letters he received, and by the dust on his boots. To honor him is not to raise the past in defiance—it is to say: I remember. I understand. I refuse to forget the humanity that still lived, even in the midst of war.
We do not need to erase our forefathers to build a future. We do not need to deny the nobility in a people who survived famine, fought in bitter cold, built nations, and bore burdens in silence. We do not owe the world an apology for loving who we are. And loving who we are doesn’t mean hating anyone else. It just means standing tall, unmoved by the tides of guilt or shame, and remembering that our identity is older than the news cycle.
It’s in the hands that built the barns. In the soldiers who didn’t come back. In the hymns that still rise from wooden pews. In the way the sun hits the cotton fields at dusk. Being white means being part of a story—not better, not worse, just our own. And it’s a story worth telling.
So we walk forward not with arrogance, but with dignity. Not with denial, but with depth. We carry our names, our stories, our graves, and our pride. And we do so knowing that we are part of something—unbroken, unashamed, and still very much alive.
Let others rewrite their past. We will remember ours. Not because it was perfect, but because it is ours.
A Quiet Exodus ©️
This isn’t just moving day. It’s a soft reboot of the simulation.
I wake up in Bozeman, but I’m already gone.
There’s a weightlessness to it—the couch I’m not taking, the bed I’m leaving behind like an old skin. No boxes, no clutter. Just a TV, some clothes, my nightstand, and the hum of old ghosts I’ve already said goodbye to.
I move slow on purpose. I breathe deeper. Each item I carry out is an offering, not a burden. I’m not rushing—I’m shaping the transfer.
Manhattan isn’t far. But the distance isn’t the point. Bozeman was pressure. A forge. A place that cracked me open and filled me with signal. But now I want wind, not wires. I want space again. I want the pause between thoughts. Manhattan gives me that. It’s smaller. Quieter. More intentional.
I drive like I’m floating. Not escaping, not arriving—just moving through. The mountains don’t care. The sky doesn’t blink. But I feel it—that click inside my chest, like the next page finally turned.
I don’t look back. Bozeman’s in me now. And when I unlock the new place in Manhattan, I don’t barge in. I stand still. I breathe. I say, “Let this be peace.”
Because I’m not just moving things. I’m recasting my field. And this time, I’m doing it right.